Much of what is humorous is actually a twisted way of finding something funny in the most awful of situations. There is dark humor as well as humor that is just downright silly. Some humor is unpleasant, and people do not always control themselves when they force their inappropriate humor into the wrong situations or at the wrong people.
Some humor is the way that people have of getting over barriers with interacting with others. The class clown and the jolly neighbor are often ways to get over inhibitions and shyness. The class clown and jolly neighbor may have also developed high levels of ability to humorize in order to deal with sad and traumatic pasts.
There is satire and sarcasm as the negative way of making a negative or critical statement while seeming to be positive. A person can express dissatisfaction or specific criticism in more acceptable ways through sarcasm, which is an indirection in speech.
There are corny jokes, puns, comics and sayings, often in the form of something that is seen every day. Refrigerator magnets, jokes on the calendar page, daily comics and other symbolic representations can offer deep thoughts in very brief form. Many times these seemingly silly and shallow icons contain reaffirming and encouraging wisdom that would take hundreds of words to express. Just the sight of them can lighten a spirit or confirm that all will eventually be well.
Humor can be a way of admitting and acknowledging our own foolishness. When we make a mistake, misbehave or exercise bad judgement, humor can be a way to admit that we are not perfect and to resolve not to repeat our mistakes.
It is no joke that anything that makes us laugh triggers biological and physiological processes that release tension. The physiological effects include channelling chemicals and hormones to boost the immune system, reduce pain, enhance alertness, and relieve the physical consequences of stress, even relaxing the muscles for several minutes. Laughter triggers endorphin release and affects the blood circulation, helping the heart to function. Emotionally, laughing strengthens or creates bonds, resolves hostility, and eases fears of interacting with others.
I personally rely on humor a great deal. I utilize my ability to see humor to aid in overcoming the negative implications of my existence on a daily basis. I call on my ability to impart humor to diffuse situations that might otherwise be totally negative whenever possible. I maintain a relatively constant effort to amuse myself, be it at the expense of others, or just in regard to my own imperfections. I have always been inclined to embrace humor, and seem to have hit the ground running in that sense. I feel as though it is an integral portion of who I am, and certainly representative of what my friends and family expect of me in general.
There are people who are not wired the way I am, and even those who share in my affinity for humor aren't going to find humor in the same places I find it. In addition to the variations present between myself, and people like me, there are certainly those among us who find no cause to embrace humor. They might be stoic, angry, indifferent, numb, or oblivious, but they are not dependent upon humor to get them through the course of any particular day.
Some people are structured in such a way that attempts at humor are little more than attempts to undermine the seriousness they perceive to be inherent to a given situation. To these people, making light of adversity only serves to deprive the negative aspects of the scenario of their significance. They are incapable of seeing the bright side, because in their minds there is no bright side. I know this to be true because I talk to strangers often enough to encounter the 31 flavors of humanity. I know that I irritate some people because of the humor that I feel is necessary, and they likewise irritate me because they are incapable of either taking or sharing a joke of any kind, in any manner, at any time.
There are polar opposites, loving people know there are people who hate. Caring people know that some people couldn't care less if they tried. Understanding people know that there are those among us who are incapable of comprehension. Godly people know that some others are ungodly. Professionals know that amateurs exist, and likewise, humorous people know that some examples of our kind are totally bereft of anything even remotely resembling a capacity for humor.
As a personal concept, humor is essential. I literally feel a need to laugh, but I am all too aware that some people truly feel the need to cry. I can testify to the fact that for me as an individual, a need for humor exists on a daily basis without exception. However, I also believe that a need for opposite polarities exists. With that in mind, it is apparent to me that not everyone needs humor daily, nor do any of us need any aspect of human behavior universally. We all have our own needs, wants, and expectations, humor is subjective in that regard. I can't help but feel as though there are adequate representations of it's counterpart to be observed among the masses that humanity consists of.
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